Building and maintaining a healthy and fulfilling relationship requires effort and understanding from both partners. However, there are certain behaviors and attitudes that can send men running in the opposite direction.
While each individual has unique preferences and deal-breakers, this article aims to shed light on some common things that can scare men off in a relationship. By being aware of these potential pitfalls, both men and women can work towards fostering stronger connections.
1. BEING TOO AVAILABLE.
You should have your own life; don’t just cling on to your boyfriend’s. It’s important to have time apart, and there should be other stuff going on in your life than just your relationship. Making yourself too available for him could make you lose your self-worth before him. Perhaps men dislike clingy women who don’t know when to be alone.
2. MOVING TOO FAST.
Don’t get too comfortable too quickly; slow it down. Building a relationship takes time. Date for a little while, and when you’re ready, then commit. The takeaway tip here is that, when you fall in love, apply wisdom and don’t rush things. For instance, rushing to sleep in his house barely 24 hours into the relationship could scare him off and make him see you as an unserious woman.
3. BEING BOSSY.
Of course, men like an independent woman who will accord them the respect they deserve, but they also don’t want someone coming into their life and telling them what to do. Relationships require compromise, and that should be on equal terms, not all on yours. If you are that type of woman who’s too bossy and always wants him to do everything your way, you may experience difficulties keeping your man because this attitude scares men off and they dislike it.
4. TEXTING TOO MUCH
Not only is it annoying, but it also makes him wonder why you don’t have anything else going on in your life. Too many texts, calls, and chats can be annoying for any man in a relationship.
5. CROCODILE TEARS.
Some ladies will resort to crying over little things just to communicate their feelings. Men dislike this particular behavior, and if you continue to use a cry as your biggest weapon in the relationship, this may scare him off. Stop crying over everything, communicate your feelings and emotions, and make him understand your needs by not wearing crocodile tears every time. Men dislike this behavior with passion.
6. ANSWERING HIS CALLS.
If the relationship is still fresh and you are just building things, don’t try to pick up his calls without his permission or consent. Whether they trust you or you trust them, don’t try to answer his calls in his absence. Men dislike this behavior.
7. SPYING ON HIM.
As I always advise people in relationships, no perfect relationship will survive without trust, so trying every means to spy on your man to see if he’s cheating on you is one of the things that scares men off. I understand that it is important to protect your man and what you have, but men dislike this behavior and can crash the relationship if he finds out that you have been spying on him.
Don’t spy on those girls you have been suspecting; this will only make you an insecure woman. Perhaps no man wants to feel like being in a cage or prison. If you are suspicious about something, talk to him about it. If your boyfriend respects you as his partner and values the relationship, he won’t go for other girls.
Nagging is the same as complaining too much about a particular thing. If you need him to do something, communicate it. However, stop complaining and reminding him about it again and again. Men dislike nagging, and too much complaining may scare him off. If there is anything bothering your mind, discuss it and give him time to work it out.
Men often feel demoralized and disrespected when their partners consistently highlight their faults rather than focusing on their strengths. It is important to strike a balance between expressing concerns and offering support, rather than resorting to a pattern of negative criticism.
Men hate being compared to other men. Remember, your man has his own uniqueness, and how men treat their women differs from one another, so don’t try to compare him with your exes.
For instance, if you say, “Can’t you see what your friends are doing for their girlfriends?” or “Your friend just bought a car for his girlfriend, but you never bought me any gifts,” perhaps you don’t even know if your man is far better than those who you are trying to compare him to. Men hate being compared with, and if you have been doing this, you need to stop. There is always a better one, but you just have to value the one you already have.
10. OVER JEALOUSY.
Too much jealousy will ruin any relationship. How do you react when you see your boyfriend talking to other girls? What do you do when you see him pose with other girls? Do you react negatively? Please get over your jealousy; otherwise, you may end up losing him to other women because men dislike jealousy from a woman.
11. TALKING ABOUT YOUR EXES
The relationship with your exes has expired. Never try to bring up your exes matter with your boyfriend; men don’t want to hear you talk about your exes. They lose interest immediately when you bring your ex into every conversation.
12. SPENDING LAVISHLY.
There is nothing wrong with buying what you need, but spending money lavishly on things that aren’t worth it is really difficult for men to understand. If he gives you some money, make him realize that you are a woman who can manage his resources.
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13. GIVING ATTITUDE FOR NO REASON
Men hate it when their woman suddenly get angry and shouts for no reason. Maybe there is a reason, and you just don’t want to tell him, but you know he can’t read your mind to know what is wrong, right? Why not just open up and tell him what’s wrong rather than give him an unnecessary attitude that may annoy him?
Saying exactly what you feel will make him realize his mistakes and apologize to you. Getting angry for no reason and shouting at him will do nothing but scare him off, which could make him lose interest in the relationship. Besides, you don’t have to pick a fight over every misunderstanding.
14. WEARING HEAVY MAKEUP
Men love to see the natural beauty of their woman. Do your makeup moderately in such a way that he sees you as beautiful with or without it. Men dislike seeing you in heavy makeup, though they might not tell you. Maybe you are trying to impress him with your beauty, but let him also see that you are pretty with or without makeup.
15. TOO MUCH BILLING
He doesn’t have to pay your house rent, school fees, water, or electricity bills. While providing for your basic needs may be one of his responsibilities as a man, you need to understand that too much billing will scare him off. Whether he is rich or not, he doesn’t have to pay for all your basic needs. If you want to bill him, fine, but don’t do this every time.
16. FOCUSING ON YOUR PHONE.
When you are with your man, learn to keep your phone in your bag. This is to ensure that you are able to give him your full attention. Imagine someone visits you and starts receiving long calls and chatting or watching videos while they’re talking to you. This is annoying, isn’t it? Staying glued to your phone when you visit is a turnoff for men.