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Is it Good to Visit Your Partner Unannounced? What You should Expect

Is it Good to Visit Your Partner Unannounced? What You should Expect

A relationship is a thing of joy, especially when you’re with the right person. When the relationship starts, you begin to ask questions about yourselves to understand each other better. You build trust and establish effective communication to keep the relationship going, and when you start seeing the green light that the person is someone you can spend the rest of your life with, that gives you assurance and peace of mind.

Sometimes you may feel like visiting your partner unannounced to check up on them, and you begin to wonder if making such a decision is okay or not. In this article, we will explain in detail what to expect when you visit your partner unannounced.

Is it okay to visit your partner unannounced?

There is nothing wrong with visiting your partner unannounced, but this also depends on the type of relationship or how healthy the relationship is. If you guys have been together for a long time, then visiting him or her unannounced shouldn’t be an issue.

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It makes you aware of who they really are.

Relationships are a risky game; that sweet boy could be a demon in disguise, and that awesome lady could be a cheater, and one way to find out is to show up unannounced. Someone who has nothing to hide will never get angry at you for visiting them uninvited. Perhaps an unannounced visitation will make you aware of their true colors.

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Visiting your partner unannounced may be a breach of their privacy, as some people just want to be alone at times. However, if he or she truly loves you, they will still manage to accommodate your visit, so there is nothing wrong with visiting them unannounced.

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Things you should do before you visit your partner unannounced.


Trust is a vital component of every healthy relationship, so ensure that you trust your partner and vice versa. When trust is present in your relationship, visiting him or her won’t be an issue; in fact, you could surprise them with your visitation, and they will be glad to receive you. The reason is that you both know you have nothing to hide, and this gives you peace of mind.

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It is important to know when to visit and when not to. To be clear, you could ask your partner if he or she is at home and what they’re doing; if they sound like they’re free and doing nothing, then you can decide to visit them unannounced since you have information that they’re likely less busy. Your partner may be surprised by your visitation and ask you, “What did you come to do? You could reply, “I was just passing by and decided to say hello.”

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When visiting your partner unannounced, it is important you plan it well so your visitation won’t be a burden on them. For instance, showing up at your boyfriend’s house and deciding to spend some days with him may look comfortable to you, but is it comfortable for your partner? 

Did you know if he has the money to accommodate you for those days? I mean the feeding and other stuff. If you are visiting unannounced, make sure you have your own money to accommodate yourself, like transport fare, and perhaps if things don’t go as planned, you can easily transport yourself back home.

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What should you expect if you visit your partner uninvited?

1. You should prepare for the worst.

Showing up unannounced can result in heartbreak, as your partner could be cheating on you, and you might catch them red-handed if you decide to visit them without notice. If you’re not ready for the emotional trauma, it’s better you don’t visit them without prior notice, and if you do, prepare for the worst.

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2. You should expect a change in attitude and behavior.

Your partner may show some negative attitude and behavior when you show up unannounced, and this might be a way to tell you that you’re not welcome in their house. This behavior could be because your visit is an emergency and they don’t have the chance to clean the room or entertain you in any way they can.

Expect a change in attitude when you show up unannounced. If your partner welcomes you with cold arms, that’s a good sign, but if they show a change in attitude and behavior because of your emergency visit, then something is wrong somewhere.

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3. Less attention.

When you visit your partner unannounced, don’t expect them to give you their full attention. Remember, you never notified them about your visit, so it is possible that your partner may be busy with other activities, which might hinder them from giving you their full attention, so you shouldn’t get angry if this happens.

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Is it okay to visit my partner uninvited?

Yes, I always advise people in relationships to try and check up on their partner sometimes without prior notice, but not often, so as to respect their privacy. This helps to build trust and reassurance in the relationship. By the way, if I can’t visit my partner uninvited, who else should I visit unannounced? If you are in a long-distance relationship, you should try to visit your partner unannounced sometimes. 

Your partner may be upset by your visit; it’s normal because they didn’t prepare for it, but you should calm them and tell them that your visit doesn’t come with any inconveniences or a burden for them . However, if your partner gets really mad at you and sends you back to your destination, you may have to re-evaluate if the relationship is best for you.

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What should I do if my partner often visits me unannounced?

If your partner makes sudden visits to you often and you are not comfortable with that, you should talk to him or her directly in a polite manner and make them understand that you have nothing to hide and that you will appreciate it if they notify you before coming. 

The fact that your partner visits you uninvited doesn’t mean that he or she doesn’t trust you or is trying to find you in something unsavory. It could be that your partner is free with you and sees nothing wrong with visiting you unannounced.

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If your boyfriend or girlfriend is into you, then uninvited visitation will not bother you because you are used to each other and have trust in each other. Nevertheless, partners in a relationship must understand that there are limits and boundaries to everything. That s/he is your partner doesn’t warrant you to keep showing up unannounced every time; you should respect your partner’s privacy and set boundaries.

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When partners make frequent sudden visits to each other, there is an implication of a lack of trust, and the partner on whom the surprise is sprung may feel disappointed, knowing fully well that the other partner might have been hoping to find them in a questionable state. So if you have been showing up on your partner uninvited often, you should know your limit, as doing so frequently can result in trust issues in your relationship.

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In conclusion, it is good to visit your partner unannounced, but that shouldn’t happen often. Besides, if unannounced visits are one of your partner’s ways of ascertaining your genuineness, then let them do it. If you have nothing to hide, they’ll find nothing, and eventually, their curiosity will be satisfied. However, it is important that you respect your partner’s privacy, as frequent unannounced visitation could cause frustration in the relationship, which I’m sure you wouldn’t like to experience.

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Comrade 9ja A.k.a 9jaPoly is A passionate Reporter that provides complete, accurate and compelling coverage of both anticipated and spontaneous News across all Nigerian polytechnics and universities campuses. 9jaPoly Started his career as a blogger and campus reporter in 2016.He loves to feed people with relevant Info. He is a polytechnic graduate (HND BIOCHEMISTRY). POLY TV is a relationship expert, life coach and polytechnic education consultant. Apart from blogging, He love watching movies and meeting with new people to share ideas with. Add 9jaPoly on WhatsApp +2347040957598 to enjoy more of his Updates and Articles.


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