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11 Signs It’s Time for You to Get a Backup Boyfriend or Girlfriend

11 Signs It's Time for You to Get a Backup Boyfriend or Girlfriend

11 Signs It’s Time for You to Get a Backup Boyfriend or Girlfriend

A backup boyfriend or girlfriend is usually a secret lover who serves as an acting spouse when the main partner is unavailable or should the main relationship fail, one can shift focus to the backup boyfriend or girlfriend, which is far better than starting afresh again.

An advantage of getting a backup boyfriend or girlfriend is that you already know their character, behaviors, and what they’re up to, so it is very easy for you to decide to move on with your backup partner in case your main relationship fails compared to building a new relationship with a stranger.

It is important to understand that having a backup boyfriend or girlfriend can destroy your relationship and can make you lose both the main and backup, and this is why you need to make sure you make the right decision at the right time. In this article, you will learn when it’s the right time to get a backup boyfriend or girlfriend. 

1. Your Partner Ghosts You.

If your boyfriend or girlfriend has been avoiding you for a while now and you have tried your best to know what went wrong, yet they keep ignoring you, Wait for three months and see if they will change, and if your efforts yielded no positive results, this may be the right time to get a backup boyfriend or girlfriend because it is obvious your boyfriend or girlfriend is moving on with life already. 

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2. They Cheated on You Serially.

You can’t continue to play loyal boy or girl to someone who doesn’t respect your feelings. If you can’t count how many times they’ve cheated on you serially, you may need to get a backup boyfriend or girlfriend too. If they want a serious relationship with you, they will be loyal to you. 

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3. Your Partner Is Abroad.

Dating someone from another country is risky because there is no assurance that they will forever be loyal to you. Although it also depends on how healthy the relationship is. If your boyfriend or girlfriend is based abroad, you may have to get a backup partner in case they change their mind.

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4. You’re in a Long-Distance Relationship.

Long-distance relationships are naturally not built to last; thus, to avoid any disappointment in the future or emergency heartbreak, you may need to get a backup girlfriend and boyfriend, perhaps if your long-distance relationship partner is acting strange and you have evidence that they’re not loyal to you. 

You need to have a backup because it is possible they have one too where they’re. However, if you have built trust in your relationship, there is no need to have a backup. 

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5. Your Partner Asks for a Break.

The moment your partner asks for a break, it could be that they have lost interest in the relationship and are looking for ways to break up with you peacefully. Never agree to that; instead, ask them why they want a break. If they can’t give you genuine reasons, this may be the right time to re-evaluate whether to get a backup boyfriend or girlfriend. 

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6. They’re Not the Type of Person You Can Marry.

Everybody has a taste and qualities they want in any man or woman they want to marry, and if your current partner lacks these qualities, this may be the right time to get a backup and slowly move on with your life. Perhaps if you notice too many red flags that you can’t cope with, getting a backup partner will be a good option.

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7. Religion and Tribal Differences.

Religion and tribal differences are important factors when choosing the right person to marry. If you are dating someone of the opposite religion and your family and friends are against your relationship, and vice versa, you may have to get a backup boyfriend or girlfriend to avoid wasting your time. You can’t risk marrying someone whom everyone you love is against. So if you both agree to end the relationship, you can continue with your backup partner. 

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8. Medical Compatibility.

Love alone isn’t enough in marriage, especially when you and your partner are not compatible medically. Maybe you have gone for a genotype and blood group checkup and found out that you are both not compatible. It’s not going to be easy to let go of the relationship, but you can slowly move on with your backup boyfriend or girlfriend. If you and your partner are not compatible medically, get a backup. 

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9. They Stop Their Responsibilities.

Has your boyfriend or girlfriend stopped performing their responsibilities? Do they no longer care for you, communicate with you, or give you attention? If your relationship has gotten to the stage where it seems you are forcing yourself on them, save yourself from unnecessary headaches by getting a backup boyfriend or girlfriend. If they love you and cherish you in the first place, they won’t make you feel unwanted. 

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10. They’re Someone You Can’t Get Married To.

When you recognize signs that they are someone you can’t get married to or you receive a revelation against marrying them, you may need to get a backup partner to avoid wasting your time building a relationship without a destination. Should you later confirm that you can’t marry them, you can move on easily without emotional trauma.

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11. You Are in a Toxic or Abusive Relationship.

A toxic relationship isn’t a healthy relationship, no matter how much you care for and love them. Staying in such a relationship is like putting your future at risk. As long as you are still very much in love with them, it’s not going to be easy to quit the relationship, but you may have to get a backup partner with someone who knows how to treat you the way you deserve. Perhaps if you are afraid of marrying them, this may be the right time for you to get a backup.

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In conclusion, all the aforementioned tips above may be a sign that it’s time for you to get a backup boyfriend or girlfriend. However, do not rush to get a backup yet, as it may harm the relationship more. Instead, you should fix whatever issues you are battling with in your relationship, and if your efforts yield no positive results, then it’s not a bad idea to get a backup boyfriend or girlfriend. Perhaps your relationship is already on the verge of collapse; you deserve better.

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