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Is It Advisable to Date my Course Mate? 8 Disadvantages of Dating Your Coursemate

Dating your coursemate can be fun and challenging, as anyone can fall in love at any time without minding with whom. What if that person is your coursemate? Can the relationship ever work and lead to marriage?

In this article, we will explore the disadvantages of dating your coursemate while providing recommendations to make it work.

Disadvantages of dating your course mates.

1. Distraction.

Generally, relationships are a distraction from academics, and it can be more challenging when you date your coursemates. You guys might not be able to stay focused. Coursemates who date each other might pay more attention to the relationship than their studies. This may affect the student’s performance academically.

Recommendation: If you must date your coursemate, make sure you set boundaries between love and academics. Do not waste your time cooking for your boyfriend when you are supposed to be attending class. If you can balance your love affair with your studies, your relationship with your coursemate will definitely be successful.

2. Moving on Becomes Difficult.

There is no guarantee that the relationship will last forever, so if eventually you realize that they are not the right man or woman for you, you might find it difficult to move on after a breakup due to the physical contact. How can you stop thinking about them when you see them every day? This will be difficult to handle.

Recommendation: If your coursemate breaks up with you, try to block them on social media to avoid getting in contact with them and missing them. Go to class only when lecturers are around, and go home immediately after class. Do not sit in the same row with your partner until you finally heal.

3. Your Freedom Is Limited.

Dating your coursemate will limit your freedom to associate freely with your friends and other coursemates in the class. Your partner might restrict you from speaking to the opposite sex, and this will create frustration for you.

They could invade your privacy and monitor all your movements. Unfortunately, the relationship might crash if they continue to disrespect your privacy. How will you feel seeing your spouse flirting with other girls in the class? Of course, you will get jealous and be hurt.

Recommendation: If you think your partner is invading your privacy and crossing their boundaries, communicate with them in a language they understand. Make sure you set rules for your likes and dislikes at an early stage of the relationship; that way, your relationship will succeed.

4. Social Stigma.

There is this belief among students that dating their coursemates is a bad idea and wrong for anyone, so if you make an attempt to get into a relationship with your coursemate, other students in the department might mock you and make you the main topic of discussion if the relationship fails. Also, if you underperform in your studies, people will blame it on your relationship with your coursemate.

Recommendation: If you are dating your course mate, avoid excessive show-offs and flaunting your partner in the classroom. Let other students know that you are serious about your studies, apart from the relationship. You may avoid sitting close to each other and flirting together in the classroom, or better yet, keep your love affair out of the public eye to avoid criticism and discouragement from your friends and other students in the class.

5. Marathon Sex.

Although this depends on how you build your relationship, marathon sex is inevitable if you date your course mate. The reason is that you may enjoy spending more time together since you belong to the same class, and this can put you at risk of unwanted pregnancy and abortion. Students who dated their coursemates often engaged in more sexual activity, and if this continues, you may face sexual addiction problems.

Recommendation: Your primary assignment in school is your studies, and the only way to prove people wrong that dating your coursemate is never a mistake is by performing well in your studies. Do not be tempted to live a couple’s life, as that can make you addicted to sex and ruin your life. Make sure you always use protection to avoid an unwanted pregnancy that may cut short your academic journey.

6. Jealousy.

In addition, jealousy is inevitable when you date your coursemate. Your boyfriend or girlfriend could be a jovial person who wants to be free with everyone, but seeing them with their friends of the opposite sex can make you feel uncomfortable and less respected, which may harm your relationship. No matter how much you care about each other, jealousy is inevitable.

Recommendation: Understand that your partner has a life to live apart from the relationship, and being in a relationship shouldn’t make us feel as if we are in prison. Put your trust in them, respect their privacy, and your relationship with the coursemate will work.

7. Marriage isn’t guaranteed.

The main purpose of relationships is to build ourselves ahead of marriage and plan a future together; however, most times, school relationships end at the school gate due to a change of location after graduation, and the distance involved may affect the relationship negatively as your partner may find someone who is better than you and possibly move on with life without you.

Recommendation: No matter how perfect your spouse may be, there will always be someone behind them who is better than who you are dating; however, you must remind yourself of how you started the journey, how they made you smile, revive all the sacrifices, the laughs, the tears, the happiness, and the sweet memories, and stay loyal to them. By staying committed and loyal to your partner, the relationship will survive beyond the school gate.

8. Cheating.

If you are the type of person who loves to cheat in a relationship and has multiple partners, this will be impossible if you date your coursemate, as they might be monitoring your movements. You attend class together, walk together, eat together, and read together. You do almost everything together, and most people would have known you to be good couples, so dumping them or cheating on them will be very impossible, and if you do, you might get caught.

Recommendation: Cheating is one of the most disgusting things you will do to anyone you claim to love. If you want to cheat, then you shouldn’t be in a relationship. If you want the relationship with your coursemate to work out, then you must avoid cheating on them.

Is it advisable to Date a fellow course mate?

Sure! Dating your course mate can be the best feeling ever. I’ve attended the weddings of lovers who married their course mates. Whether or not to date a fellow course mate is a personal decision. Nevertheless, it is not a bad idea to date a fellow course mate as long as both of you are ready to make things work out.