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Ladies, here are 7 Reasons why Men Deny pregnancy even when they Love You

Many ladies have always wondered why boyfriends love to deny responsibility when it comes to pregnancy. Some of them will blow hot and call you different names as soon as you tell them you are pregnant. Well, it’s not their fault; it may be due to some unforeseen circumstances.

At times, ladies do use pregnancy to test a man’s love and only few men can pass such a test even though using pregnancy is not the best way to confirm if a man truly loves you.

By the way, why would a guy who promised you heaven on earth and claims to love you deny your pregnancy? Why did he suddenly change the moment you broke the news to him that you were pregnant? Why the insult? Why calling you a whore? Is that fair at all? Find out below the major reasons why men deny pregnancy.

Why Do Men Deny Pregnancy?

1. He’s Not Ready to Start A Family Yet.

One of the major reasons why men deny pregnancy is because they are afraid of the responsibilities that come with being a father. They know your safety and that of your baby automatically becomes their sole responsibility, and most guys, especially in their 20’s and 30’s are boys who are just starting life, so they may be left with no other options than to deny the pregnancy.

The reason for doing this is to get you scared to terminate the baby or to put a deep fear in you so you won’t think of getting pregnant for them. If a guy denies your pregnancy, he may be afraid of starting a family yet because he still has a long way to go in life, this may be the reason for his actions.

2. He Doesn’t See You as His Future Partner.

If a man denies your pregnancy on strong terms, it could be that this guy doesn’t see himself with you in the future. Perhaps if he’s financially stable yet pressuring you to get rid of the baby and denying ever sleeping with you, you should know he’s just using you and nothing serious.

The truth is, if you are everything to him, he will sit you down and ask you whether you want to keep it or not. However, the unserious ones will deny ever knowing you. By the way, he might have someone else in mind to get married to, so he will try everything possible to frustrate you to get rid of the pregnancy so he can focus on other girls.

3. It’s A Normal Thing Among Men.

Ladies, you guys should understand that denying pregnancy is a normal practice among men. Even the matured guys among them are not left out. Some of them will first deny the pregnancy, and after some time, they will reach out to you and apologize for their misbehavior.

So if you are pregnant and you inform your man and he denies it, just be patient. It’s normal for them to deny it at first if it came as a surprise or was unexpected. What is not normal here is when your boyfriend insists that he’s not responsible for the pregnancy. Then you can take further action.

4. They Caught You Cheating Before.

Cheating is an offense that men hardly forgive. If he has caught you before cheating on him, believe me, the moment you break the news to him, he might deny the pregnancy and call you a whore, slut, or cheap girl for getting pregnant.

Your boyfriend may say words that will hurt you at this very moment, but it’s best you maintain your silence if you are truly sure he’s responsible for the pregnancy. Your boyfriend may deny the pregnancy if you have cheated on him in the past because he thinks you were not loyal and maybe afraid of fathering another man’s child.

5. He’s Not Mature Enough.

Maturity is not about age. You know a man is mature by the way he communicates and handles situations like this. Boys will deny your pregnancy, while men will take full responsibility for their actions. If your boyfriend denies the pregnancy and even blocks you, just know that you are dating a boy, not a man.

6. He’s Still Struggling.

If a man is still a student who depends on his parents or is still struggling with life, bringing the news of a pregnancy to the table will be a disappointment and sad one for him because he knows for sure that his parents mustn’t be aware, and perhaps he is still battling with financial stability, so he believes denying the pregnancy will scare you enough to terminate the baby to protect himself.

7. They Don’t Love You.

Yes, you heard me right. If a man truly loves you, he will sit you down, talk to you politely, and communicate about what you guys are going to do about the pregnancy. He wouldn’t scold you for getting pregnant for him because he knows he’s responsible for it.

What was his reaction when you told him you were pregnant? Did he begin to insult you, abuse you, and deny responsibility? Has he stopped talking to you because of this? If yes, this might be evidence that your man is pretending to love you.

What should I do if my boyfriend denies the pregnancy?

If your boyfriend denies your pregnancy and has refused to take responsibility, below are the next steps to take.

1. Contact his family, friends, and relatives.

If you are dating someone, you should at least know some of his family members, friends, or relatives, especially his parents. Let them know what is going on. Although his family members or friends may be harsh on you too, don’t give up. Carry them along; let them know their son will become a father soon. This way, it will be difficult for your boyfriend to keep denying the pregnancy.

2. Report him to law enforcement.

Some guys are so stubborn that they will never contribute anything until you deliver, and some of them will even run away. To be on the safe side, it’s best to report him to the police or sue him in court. The law will force him to take responsibility.

3. Threaten him.

Threatening a man for denying your pregnancy may not be the best approach, but it is necessary when dealing with a narcissistic partner. Threaten him that you will drag him everywhere on social media if he keeps on denying responsibility.

You may also threaten to hurt yourself if that will scare him into doing the needful. Tell him, “If anything happens to me, you will be held responsible.” Dropping a bombshell on him is sometimes a good approach if he insists he’s not responsible for the pregnancy.

Say No to Abortion!

While abortion may be another way to save yourself from the public embarrassment of an unwanted pregnancy, it is important to understand the risk involved, which at times may be death and serious health complications. To avoid stories that touch, always use protection after unprotected sex, or better yet, avoid unprotected sex.

Meanwhile testing a man’s love with pregnancy doesn’t guarantee love. He could pass the test and still not love you genuinely. Perhaps men do not take pregnancy issues lightly, especially when they’re not ready to settle down yet.

My boyfriend called me different names when I pranked him with pregnancy.

Like I said earlier, men don’t take pregnancy issues lightly when they are not ready to start a family yet, but your boyfriend abusing you by calling you different names like a prostitute just because of pregnancy—something he enjoyed—is a serious red flag you should never ignore. A man who sees a future with you will not abuse you and start fighting you for getting pregnant for him. If you observe this sign in him, you may reconsider the relationship.