Does pregnancy guarantee marriage? No pregnancy does not in any way guarantee that a man will marry you. Pregnancy is a product of love not evidence of love. The young ladies at this stage must understand that getting pregnant for a man doesn’t mean he would love you, nor will it compel him to Marry you. If marriage Is measured by pregnancy, the single mothers in the society could have reduced but instead it keeps increasing daily.
90% OF MEN WILL FAIL PREGNANCY TEST.
You have a boyfriend who is a student like you, someone that can’t afford his own school fees and you still think testing him with pregnancy is the way to be sure of his love for you? What do you expect him to say if you tell him that you are pregnant ? I think he would ask you to terminate it and to you, you will think he doesn’t love you but tell me what do you expect him to do if you inform him that you are pregnant? I think he would ask you to abort and to you, you will think he didn’t love you but how do you expect him to cope with studies and your responsibilities? Testing a man’s love for you by faking pregnancy is an old tips which doesn’t work and if the pregnancy is real I hope you know the consequences of abortion is either Bareness or death.
Even if you are dating a man who has money and takes care of all your needs, don’t ever make the mistake of getting pregnant to tie him down. Pregnancy doesn’t guarantee marriage. This is why we have many single mothers these days. Getting pregnant for a man doesn’t mean he will marry you, it doesn’t mean he will love you the most.
Love can be crazy sometimes but always apply sense When you fall in love in a relationship. Don’t ever get pregnant by a man for the purpose of marriage or because you love him and you don’t want to lose him. Get pregnant only when it’s time and when you are legally married and prepared. You should not get pregnant for a man to keep the relationship or to compel him to love you, it may not work and you might be the loser in the end. Giving birth to a man who doesn’t know your family or perform the necessary rights is bad, that will only make you a baby mama, single mother and cheap housewife.
A man who will love you will love you not until you get pregnant for him, in fact you should not accept proposal from a man who insists that he wants you to get pregnant for him first before he can tie the knot with you, if he is serious or has concerns about your fertility, you should both go for medical check up. Pregnancy doesn’t guarantee love nor does it guarantee marriage. I’ve seen a man who impregnates three different women at the same time and do you think it’s possible for him to marry them all? No way!! This is why you must erase the mentality that a man would marry you if you get pregnant for him. This only works during the days of our great grandfather and not at this computer age.
STOP SEEING WRONGS AS ROLE MODEL.
Choosing wrongs as a role model can lead you down a bad path. Your course mate got pregnant for his boyfriend and luckily for them they got married and you think you can try that as well because it works for your friend. May I remind you that what works for A doesn’t work for B. Don’t compare yourself with another person.
If your sister was impregnated by her boyfriend and luckily she got married later and you think the next thing for you to do is copy her, I must tell you that this can be one of the biggest mistake you will ever make because it may not work as you think besides why choosing wrong as a role model when you can be a good example for your junior ones? Be reminded that your junior brothers and sisters are following your footsteps. What type of foundation are you laying? Stop making yourself cheap for a man. Getting pregnant for a man to tie him down so as not to lose him In the relationship is a mistake you must never Make.
TAKE A STEP AT A TIME.
You see those girls on campus carrying babies. Some of them got pregnant out of wedlock but few of them used to have luck as they might luckily get married after their childbirth but to me I think it is good to take a step at time. Why rush to take your dinner as breakfast? Love is not blind, love is not stupid so why are you eager to carry a baby for a man whom you can’t proudly call your husband? It is a Wrong decision to have a child with a man who doesn’t know your family without paying your dowry. Be patient. Your career first followed by any other thing.
Some couples Don’t love each other they are just living together because of the children. This is not right and old generation thing. Don’t hook yourself with a man because of the baby Between you two. What is the gain of a relationship or marriage without happiness? You have your own life and your baby has its own. Pregnancy can’t keep a man. Build your life to the fullest before you think of pregnancy and marriage.
Do you want to build a family whereby a man will ‘knack’ you and you think because you don’t want him to leave then you get pregnant for him and you guys start living as husband and wife. That’s quack marriage. Marriage is not a must, it is not compulsory. Everyone can’t be lucky in marriage. Stop making yourself cheap to a man because you don’t want to lose him.
For the fact that a guy is telling you that you are the mother of his unborn children should not be a reason for you to get pregnant out of wedlock. You always see your friend that got pregnant for a boyfriend haven’t you seen your mates that are getting HND, PGD, MSC, PhD? Don’t allow love to ruin your chance of having a good career.
SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE.
Since pregnancy is an evidence of having sex, Religious leaders condemn sex before marriage and also tradition forbids it but we are now in a civilized generation. Sex before marriage is your own choice. Your choice is different from mine. Polytechnic and universities is a community of people from different backgrounds so I’m not preaching religion to you but my point here is that sex in a relationship is choice if you think the relationship worth giving sex then give him but don’t make a mistake of getting pregnant for a man to keep him in the relationship or for him to marry you make sure you use protection.
Sometimes we can’t cheat nature so definitely you will feel horny, feel love and if you can’t control your sexual urge by waiting till the appropriate time which is marriage, then always use protection, tell him to use protection because when the results of the enjoyment is out you maybe the one to bear the consequences so love with sense.
Some men will even ask you to get pregnant for them before they can marry you. Pregnancy is for marriage, you have to tie the knot first before you get that pregnant And if he is doubting your ability to conceive go for a medical report at least that is better. As sex doesn’t keep Relationship same as pregnancy. If you get pregnant for him because you don’t want to lose him you might end up losing him and losing your chance of meeting your future man.
People do say that having a child out of wedlock is a mistake and anyone can make the mistake. Anyway if you have made the mistake of having a kid with the wrong man, stop forcing yourself on him to marry you. Just focus on your life and how you can take your life to the next level. Don’t allow that mistake to define your life. Being a Single mother Is not a shame, everyone can make that mistake. I have a family sister that made that mistake and when she realized her mistake, she moved out of the irresponsible man’s house to further her education and finally got married To her dream man in 2013. I also have another one that made the same mistake and she is still suffering from it till today. It is either you allow the mistake to reshape your life or you fix the mistake, it’s your choice.
I don’t know If you are already pregnant for a boyfriend maybe he accept or reject you I want you to know that you are not the first to make this mistake or maybe yours is that you got pregnant for a married man because you were carried away with the way he takes care of you just be strong you will surely get through it. Don’t attempt abortion because you don’t want your education to stop or because of shame, do you still remember the polytechnic student that dropped a suicide note two weeks ago? She did abortion and had an internal bleeding, her boyfriend whom she love denies responsibility. Pls learn from peoples mistake, don’t ever try abortion It’s dangerous to your health.
And for other ladies that are yet to make this mistake of pregnancy before marriage. Try as much as possible not to and if You already made the mistake, Make amends and you will get through it and you will be fine, your education won’t stop and your future won’t be affected only if you don’t allow the mistake to define your life.
SINGLE MOTHERS ARE GOOD FOR RELATIONSHIP.
Dating or marrying a single mother isn’t a taboo. Most of the single mothers left toxic relationships and marriage to have a happy life and if you fall in love with any of them marrying them Should not be a problem. When you see a single mother please don’t mock them or think they have been used, majority of the Single Mothers are better than the so called girlfriend that has had Multiple abortions For boyfriends to escape the shame of pregnancy. Single mothers are Even better than slay queens that have damaged their womb With contraceptive pills.
Don’t forget most of these single mothers were betrayed by their boyfriends and some had a failed marriage Because of how they were treated in the marriage. Don’t allow anyone to brainwash you that marrying a single mother is wrong. If you love her for real and you make your findings about what made her a single mother then what is wrong with dating her or marrying her? What matters in love is happiness. Two of my course mates in those days had a child before gaining admission to the polytechnic and both of them are now married to another man. Anyone can make a mistake so don’t judge them with their mistakes. If you love her and you are happy with her. Do the needful rites.
Therefore my brother takes love easily and doesn’t rush to keep a woman by impregnating her. If pregnancy Truly keeps marriage or relationship there Won’t be a breakup And divorce. If you are a serious man that loves just a woman. Build a better future together and take it step by step and Don’t rush.
FRUIT OF YOUR LABOUR.
Another Reason why many young ladies rush to get pregnant out of wedlock is because they want to eat the fruit of their labor on time. It amazes me why someone who is in her right senses would depend on an unborn child for a better future. Stop depending Or hoping on an Unborn child for A better future instead be the reason why your unborn children will have a better future. You said that your father gave birth to you at Young age. Have you bought Benz for your dad now? Stop this mentality that if you give birth early you will reap the fruit of your labor early. It’s an old fashioned thing and it doesn’t work in this generation. Your parents gave birth to you hoping you will eradicate poverty. You shouldn’t give birth out of wedlock expecting the child to Eradicate same poverty. Give birth at the right time and stop doubling poverty upon poverty.
There is a folktale that if you give birth to a child that the child will be the source of your income, like maybe if the baby arrives things will start going well for you. This is just a folktale and only an illiterate will believe it. You don’t have a good job, you have no education, no skill, nothing, nothing just roaming the streets and you believe that giving birth is the solution? No! The solution Is for you to take your life seriously. Stop believing folktales. Don’t rush to impregnate a girl because you don’t want to lose her and also don’t claim you are professional, anybody can make mistakes. If you are not married and you are already having sex. Take caution and use condoms. Don’t kill your career because of one time pleasure. Apply sense in that relationship.
How to Avoid Pregnancy out of wedlock.
Imagine the pain of having a child for a man who isn’t ready to take responsibility, imagine bearing a child with a woman who doesn’t give you peace? This is why you should not rush love. The best way to avoid pregnancy out of wedlock is to zip your trousers or close your legs and if you are unable to hold it for long, please use protection. What does protection mean? Ask your boyfriend to wear a condom, if he can’t do that then no sex. Remember unprotected sex exposes you to Wedlock shame and wedlock Shame exposes you to abortion and abortion Exposes you to death. Contraceptive pills expose you to bareness so think well and always ensure you do the right thing while having fun in relationships.