The best way to get a woman you love or want to date is to approach her and tell her about your feelings. If she likes you, she will accept you; if she doesn’t, you will move on. But some guys are afraid of rejection, and the truth they say is bitter, so this may be the reason why most guys use lies to woo a woman.
When you tell a woman that you are probably still living with your parents, she might not take you seriously, but when you tell her you are in your 2-bedroom flat or on a drive, she may want to listen, and this is why some guys borrow their friend’s clothe, rooms, and cars to impress a woman and woo her. He knows that she won’t hesitate to give him a chance.
After dating for a while, the girl started noticing that he wasn’t who she thought he was and was like, “Why did you lie to me?” The response may be, “Because I love you; I don’t want to lose you; you wouldn’t give me a chance.”
In the end, the relationship will still crash because the lady might feel betrayed, while some women will adjust and continue with the relationship. Even if the relationship continues, it may take a while to recover from this collapse.
Of course, some relationships were built on lies before the truth revealed itself. Men used lies to get what they wanted because they believed that’s what women loved to hear. He knew that the lady might reject him if he had told her the truth about himself.
The sad part of this issue is that the girl may fall out of love when she discovers the lies are too much or when the lies are becoming more evident. She will think she deserves an honest man.
What is the solution to avoid lies in relationships?
As a woman, you could tell the man that you should be friends first before dating. The best relationship could start with being friends at first. Being friends will expose you to knowing more about who you want to date. Also, state your expectations and love language. Tell him what true love means to you and what you expect him to do for you in the relationship.
A man may pretend or lie to you because he thinks he doesn’t deserve you, so he will use different ways to woo you, and this may include telling lies and manipulating you with sweet words that don’t exist in his own world. Always be yourself; don’t fake your life to make a man fall for you. Fake things do not last.
As a man, you should tell her the truth as the relationship grows; she deserves to know the real you. If you are living with parents, tell her; if you are squatting with friends, tell her; and even if your room is not beautiful, invite her there. A woman who loves you will still love you regardless.
How long will you continue to borrow your friend’s car? Will your friends allow you to use their room forever? What if she gets to know that you are not even a student or have any degree? Yes, the love may be there, but the trust will be shattered, and no relationship will survive without trust.
Why do men lie a lot?
1. The fear of being rejected. Like I said earlier, men are afraid of being rejected, so he uses his sweet mouth and lies to convince you to fall in love with him.
2. He doesn’t want to lose you. He loves you, and he doesn’t want to lose you.
3. To keep you. Men believe telling lies is the easiest way to keep a woman. The moment you know his real self, you wouldn’t like to date him, so they prefer to stay on the lie-lie level.
Is lying a red flag in a relationship?
Lying is a common thing in relationships. It all depends on the lie and why you’re telling it. There are white lies and big lies. While white lies happen fairly often in relationships, examples of white lies are when you make your hair for #5,000 and tell your boyfriend it’s #10,000, while big lies are a series of heavy lies, and an example of them is when you have a child with your ex-lover and hide it from your new partner.
You know this can ruin your relationship when they find out for themselves. By the way, we are all guilty of telling white lies; nevertheless, if you notice that your partner is consistently deceiving or getting caught in lies, it is a red flag.
If you have kept a secret from your partner and they ask you if you have ever lied, it’s best to apologize and tell the truth. Otherwise, you risk telling even more lies to try to cover up the other lie, and that won’t end well.
If your partner lies to you, you’re under no obligation to forgive them right away, on their timeline, or even at all. It is fine to ask for time to process it and take it in.
In conclusion, lies may be inevitable for men in relationships because it’s an easy trick to woo a woman. Whatever your reason for using lies to get love, just remember that the truth will reveal itself someday.
So, if I were you, I would open up to her before it gets too late. Perhaps she’s now your girlfriend; she loves you already and telling her the truth may hurt her and the relationship. Either she quits or continues, but at least your conscience will be free, and this can be a great way to rebuild trust in your relationship.