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8 Things to Expect When You Marry a Stingy Man

A stingy man is a man who is unwilling to spend on you, his family, and his friends. A stingy man hardly gives out money, nor do they take full care of their responsibilities.

Although it is true that love may be blind, in the case of a stingy man, these are what to expect when you marry them.

1. His Family Thinks You Are the Problem.

Your husband’s family would think you are the reason why their son isn’t generous to them, and they will label you a ‘wicked wife’ because your husband isn’t generous to them, not knowing that you married a stingy man. If you don’t want to become a bad wife to your husband’s family, marrying a stingy man will be a regrettable mistake.

2. Lack of Empathy.

A stingy man lacks empathy; they concentrate more on themselves than their family. If you tell him that you are sick, he won’t bother. If you tell him you are hungry, his response will be, “Find something to eat.” Ask him to give you money to restock the house with food, and he will tell you, “I don’t have.” You begin to wonder if your husband really loves you.

3. He Will Shun His Responsibilities.

Do not expect a stingy man to perform his full responsibilities; they always like to split the bills, and you may have to constantly remind them before they perform their roles. To pay for his kids’ school fees is a problem; to buy clothes for you and your children can take him years. Even when you ask him for money to cook food, he will refuse and instead go to the market himself to buy that stuff. Isn’t that annoying?

Meanwhile, he has the money, but he’s just stingy. People will begin to question you and ask why you are suffering despite your husband’s wealthy status. Unless you are ready to carry all the responsibility yourself while your husband feeds you with love, do not marry a stingy man. A stingy boyfriend will make a stingy husband.

4. Fights and Misunderstandings.

Of course, there will always be fights and misunderstandings between you and your husband because of his stinginess. You may want to draw his attention to his unwillingness to give and take care of you and your kids, and this might not go well with him, leading to fights.

Do you still have to beg your husband to take care of you? Do you still have to remind him to always take care of your children? See, no matter how much you love them, when you marry a stingy man, don’t expect the marriage to be rosy because there are thousands of fights and misunderstandings ahead of you.

5. Less Financial Assistance.

A stingy man is a selfish man when it comes to finances and giving. You might run into an emergency where you need money urgently. Unfortunately, your husband will be the last person to call, knowing fully well that he’s reluctant to give. What is the essence of marrying a stingy man who can’t help you in difficult times?

6. Less Gifts and Surprises.

One of the activities that makes marriage sweet, and fun is the sharing of gifts and surprising one another. However, for stingy men, they hardly give out gifts, and eventually, when they do, it may be the worst gift. This experience can cause frustration for you that you begin to tell yourself you deserve better than you are being treated by your husband.

7. Expect Him to Be a Sperm Donor.

A sperm donor is a man who is of no use other than being sexually active in bed. You only enjoy them in bed, but in other aspects like caring, showing love and empathy, and giving, they’re very poor.

8. Regret.

If you do not want to regret marrying your husband, it’s best you avoid a stingy man at all costs because they will make the marriage tough for you and may even shred their own responsibilities on you to carry. Most women who marry their stingy boyfriend out of love later regret it because they become worse after marriage.

Can A Stingy Man Ever Change?

Look, you can’t change a man who doesn’t want to be changed. If you have tried your best to call his attention to his unwillingness to give, care for, and show empathy, and yet nothing productive comes out of it, this may be the right time to reevaluate the relationship. Whatever you tolerate while dating will multiply 10x in marriage. My mom always used to tell me that you can choose your husband, but your kids can’t choose their father. Don’t marry potential; marry reality. Marriage doesn’t fix dysfunction; it reveals it all.