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10 Ways to Break Up from a Relationship Peacefully Without Hurting Your Spouse (Silent Breakup Tips)

Relationship is a thing of joy, but sometimes it can bring pain and unhappiness. If your relationship has gotten to a stage where you think breaking up is the best solution and you are already prepared to move on with your life, this can be easy for you but unbearable for your partner, thus breaking up peacefully without hurting becomes necessary.

Although most times, when a relationship breaks apart, it usually comes with emotional pain for you and your partner. Before you end the relationship, make sure you think about it very well and consider it your best decision so you won’t come back to your ex begging for a second chance again which might be too difficult for you.

Why should I end my Relationship?

The reason why you should end your relationship is best known to you, but there is no point in staying in a toxic and abusive relationship. By the way, what is the essence of staying in a relationship where your happiness and future together are uncertain?

If you want to end the relationship silently or break up without saying it, in this article, I will walk you through the 11 steps to break up with someone without hurting them.

1. LIMIT THE COMMUNICATION.

If you want to kill any relationship, just stop the communication. Communication helps strengthen a relationship, and now that you want to break up with your partner without hurting them, you need to reduce the communication. For example, if you guys spoke once a day before, you should reduce it to once every two days. If they call to ask why? Tell them you were so busy or give other relevant excuses.

By doing this, the love and feelings will begin to die gradually, but don’t forget that you are trying to break up without anyone getting hurt, so you should try to say “Hello” once in a while. This is one of the best ways to break up peacefully.

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2. AVOID PHYSICAL CONTACT.

When trying to end a relationship without getting hurt, it will take time, so during these times, make sure you avoid physical contact with them. If you normally visit them before, you should retreat, and if they volunteer to come visit you, you should make yourself unavailable. Doing this will reduce the love and put the relationship on the verge of collapse.

3. GET YOURSELF BUSY.

A lot of people actually want to end their relationship, but they find it difficult due to love. Well, if you are in this situation, you should try to get yourself busy with something productive. For example, if you are a student, you could consider learning a skill. During this process, you will hardly have time to think about love or the relationship, and no one will get hurt.

4. TRAVEL OUT OF TOWN.

Ending a relationship with clingy people can be challenging if you are dating one. So to make it easier for you, you can tell them you will be traveling out of town for a couple of months. If possible, go visit your family and friends for some months, change your number, and block all means of communication. But try to call them once in a while so nobody gets hurt.

5. DON’T GOSSIP ABOUT YOUR PLANS TO OTHER PEOPLE.

Except for a few of your family and friends whom you trusted; you shouldn’t gossip about your plans to your friends because they might leak confidential information to your spouse during a lengthy conversation that might later hurt him/her. Remember, your intention is to break up peacefully. So, inform only trusted family and friends so they can cover you in case your spouse reports your attitude to them.

6. DON’T GIVE THEM HOPE THAT YOU WILL CHANGE IN THE FUTURE.

The end is the end, so let it be clear in your actions. Be kind, but firm. Give him or her reasons to move on with their lives through body language. For instance, they may challenge you, saying that something is wrong and that you have changed. If they ask why, reply with “nothing” so they can know that the relationship won’t work and nobody will get hurt because it has been a gradual process.

7. DO NOT AGREE TO SEE HIM/HER.

I understand how tempting love could be, but since you have already prepared to end this relationship peacefully, do not agree to see him/her even if they beg to see you one last time. Even if you miss him or her, give them the freedom to let go and move on with their lives.

8. DON’T BREAK UP WITH YOUR PARTNER BY TEXT OR PHONE.

In addition to 7 above, if the relationship is a “Close Relationship” breaking up over the phone via a text message can be disrespectful and hurtful for you and your soon-to-be ex. If possible, end the relationship in person, as this gives both of you a chance to talk and reflect on the situation. This may hurt a bit, but at least you guys will break up peacefully. Nevertheless, breaking up over the phone may work for you in a distance relationship.

9. DON’T PUT BLAME ON THE OTHER PERSON.

In an effort not to make your soon-to-be ex feel directly responsible for the end of the relationship, you shouldn’t place blame on them for the breakup. Even if they did something that hurt you, maybe they cheated on you or took your feelings for granted. Let it slide, forgive them, and move on. For example, saying, “I can’t continue with this relationship because you cheated on me.” When you tell someone that “he’s too this or she’s not enough that,” these words may appear to them as if you are shifting all the blame onto them.

Instead, consider mentioning things that you could have changed to make the relationship work. For example, say things like, “I really love you, but I’m not sure we’re good for each other.” “Trust me, I love you so much, but I think we’re not compatible.”

10. EXPECT TO FEEL SOME EMOTIONAL PAINS AFTER THE BREAKUP.

Even if you are already prepared to end the relationship and are ready to move on with your life afterwards, when you finally break up, you may feel a lot of strong emotions like sadness and loneliness. It’s normal to experience these emotions during a breakup, and this doesn’t mean you made a mistake by ending the relationship; rather, it means the relationship wasn’t meant for you.