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Questions to Ask a Girl You’ve Just Met

So, you’ve just met a beautiful girl, and you’re curious about the right questions to ask to take things to the next level. When meeting someone new, especially in a social or romantic context, asking the right questions can pave the way for meaningful conversation and a genuine connection.

Here are some thoughtful questions to ask a girl you’ve just met to help break the ice and build an engaging conversation:

1. A Brief Introduction.

Depending on where you met her—whether on social media or in person—you can ask her to briefly introduce herself. Ask for her name, age, and where she’s from, as well as where she lives. This will give you more insight into getting to know her better.

2. Ask About Her Education.

You can ask her about her education and career. You need to know whether she’s still an undergraduate or has graduated. If she is a student, ask about her school, year, or department. You can take it further by asking if she lives alone, with roommates, or with her parents. These questions will help you get to know her better.

3. Ask What She Does for a Living.

Yes! It’s very important to ask a girl you’ve just met what she does for a living, perhaps to understand if she’s serious about her life. You could ask:

“Okay, Beatrice, what do you do for a living? Do you have any skills, business, or a side hustle?”

You can also ask her where she works. If she’s an apprentice, she will let you know.

4. Ask About Her Likes and Dislikes.

You wouldn’t want to scare her away with habits that could turn her off, right? Ask about her likes and dislikes. Most people pay close attention to what you say during the talking stage. Knowing a lady’s likes and dislikes can help you both relate properly without getting on each other’s nerves.

5. Ask About Her Happiest Moment in Life.

Everyone has had happy moments and, perhaps, a happiest moment in their life. Asking a girl you’ve just met about the happiest moment in her life is a smart question. You could ask:

“What are the happiest moments of your life?”
“Is there a day you can never forget in your life? If yes, what happened then?”

6. Ask About Her Past Relationships.

Asking a girl you’ve just met about her past relationships is fine, but don’t rush into it. Make sure you’re already on the same page before discussing the past. Ask about her previous relationships, particularly what ended her last one. Her response will help you understand who she is and how to avoid repeating the mistakes that broke her heart in the past.

7. Things That Make Her Happy.

Everyone has particular activities that make them happy and occupied. Asking a girl you’ve just met about the things that make her happy is very important. Perhaps doing those things for her could make her more interested in you, especially if she’s someone you’d like to date.

8. Ask About Her Favorite Meal.

Ask her about her favorite food and restaurant. For instance, if she says her favorite food is fried rice, you could respond jokingly with, “Wow! So you can cook fried rice very well?” If she says yes, you could continue with, “Can you prepare it for me? I’d really love to taste your cooking.” You’re asking these questions to get to know her better, while also trying to woo her with your words.

9. Where Do You See Yourself in a Few Years?

If you want to know if the girl is ambitious or has plans for the future, you can ask, “Where do you see yourself in 5 years?” Although the future is unpredictable, her response can help determine if she has plans for the future or if she only cares about the present. Ask about her achievements so far, and also discuss her career and life goals.

10. Talk About Marriage.

If both of you are already interested in each other and feel comfortable, ask her what marriage means to her. You deserve to know if she values marriage and family. Discuss the type of wedding she would like to have, whether it’s a court wedding or a church wedding. Ask her how she would raise children, how many she would want, and how she would manage your home if, fortunately, you were to end up together as husband and wife. For example:

“What type of wedding would you like to have: a grand wedding, a low-key wedding, a court wedding, or a church wedding?”
“How many children would you like to have in the future?”

“How would you resolve conflicts in your marriage if you got married?”
“What religion will your children, or our children, practice?”

11. Ask About Her Family and Friends.

As the saying goes, “Show me your friends, and I’ll tell you who you are.” Asking a girl you’ve just met about her family and the type of friends she keeps will help you get to know her better. Ask her about her family, especially her parents.

12. What Are the Qualities You Want in a Man?

If she’s a girl you would like to date, this question is important, perhaps to know if you possess the qualities she wants in a man.

13. What Do You Enjoy Doing in Your Free Time?

This question helps reveal her hobbies and interests, giving you insight into what she’s passionate about and providing a foundation for further conversation.

14. What’s a Place You’ve Always Wanted to Visit and Why?

This question sparks an interesting discussion about travel and provides clues about her dreams and aspirations.

15. Do You Have Any Favorite Types of Music or Artists?

Music can be a significant part of someone’s life. Finding out her tastes can lead to a conversation about concerts, festivals, or shared musical interests.

16. What’s Something You’re Passionate About?

Understanding her passions can give you insight into what drives her and what topics are important to her.

17. Have You Had Any Exciting Experiences Recently?

This question allows her to share recent highlights or achievements, making the conversation more personal and engaging.

18. What’s the Best Advice You’ve Ever Received?

This question can lead to meaningful insights into her values and principles, and it may also provide a deeper understanding of her outlook on life.

19. Are You Into Any Sports or Outdoor Activities?

If she enjoys physical activities, this question could lead to discussions about fitness, sports teams, or outdoor adventures.

20.What’s a Skill or Hobby You’d Like to Learn in the Future?

Inquiring about future interests can reveal her aspirations and areas she’s curious about, which can lead to further discussion.

21. Do You Have a Favorite Cuisine or Restaurant?

Food is a universal topic that can lead to discussions about cooking, dining experiences, or even potential future outings.

22. Are There Any Books or Movies That You’ve Recently Enjoyed?

Asking about recent media she’s enjoyed can open up discussions about shared interests and recommendations, creating a platform for deeper conversation.