Is Sex Really Spiritual? Myths, Religion, Fear Tactics, and the Real Truth Nigerians Don’t Discuss

Sex has always been one of the most misunderstood topics in Africa, especially in Nigeria where culture, religion, fear, and tradition all mix together. Many people grew up hearing scary stories about sex—stories that make it look like a mysterious ritual capable of destroying glory, destiny, wealth, or even sanity. But how much of these things are true? And how much of them were created to scare people into behaving a certain way?

This article breaks everything down in the same raw, honest, and street-level way you understand it—no sugarcoating, no lies, no fear tactics. Just real talk.

Is Sex Spiritual?

There have been lots of claims stating that sex is spiritual, but is it truly spiritual the way people paint it in Africa, especially Nigeria?

The idea that sex is spiritual mostly comes from religion (Christianity, Islam, Judaism, and even Hinduism). Many religions consider sex sacred, and see premarital or extramarital sex as a sin. I believe these claims were mainly created to discourage people—especially teenagers—from the consequences that come with sex.

So, is sex spiritual?

In a religious context, yes, sex is seen as spiritual. Sex is viewed as “dirty”, so believers are advised to abstain during fasting and prayer. This is likely to help them stay focused and build a connection with God since sex carries emotional energy.

Misconceptions About Sex

1. “If you sleep with a woman, she will collect your glory.”

This is a myth from tradition and religious teachings. Glory and destiny are not tied to sex. Glory cannot be exchanged through sex; it doesn’t work that way.

Sex itself is harmless. It only becomes dangerous when spiritual manipulation is involved. Sleeping with your spouse won’t harm your destiny. Problems arise only if someone intentionally uses manipulation, charms, or diabolical practices to harm you.

Just like how people are advised to avoid dating yahoo boys, the same way some men use charms and juju manipulation—not the sex itself.

2. “If you sleep with a man, you will run mad.”

Sex isn’t what makes anyone run mad. Madness happens when spiritual manipulation is involved. Those responsible often use charms, juju, magic soap, kayamata, and in extreme cases, things like blood rituals or eating horrible substances. It’s not the sex doing the work; it’s the “black magic”, “enchantment”, or ritual involved.

Just like a physics law states: a body remains at rest unless an external force acts on it. Sex remains safe unless spiritual manipulation is exerted on it.

Medically, sex is safe—unless you sleep with an infected person.

Sex is more of a physical connection and emotional bond than spiritual. Religious leaders exaggerate the spiritual angle to scare people away from immorality. But people should be educated with reality, not fear.

Personal Experience: 

In 2019, a family member developed mental illness after flirting with a wealthy businessman. According to the family, she was “used”. She met the man during her undergraduate days at ACE University. Despite warnings, she continued the relationship because of the money. One day he took her to a traditional cleric. They discussed, she ate, and that was the beginning of her problems. Months later, she became mentally unstable.

Churches later confirmed she had been “used”. She’s now over 40, single, and her career is damaged. It wasn’t sex that ruined her; it was spiritual manipulation. The man took her to a fetish location and made her eat something harmful. Without deliverance, she might not be alive today.

So when advising people to avoid sexual immorality, it’s better to teach real consequences—not fear-driven spiritual myths. Even spiritual people can fall victim to ritual setups.

3. “Some women you sleep with will make you broke; some will make you rich.”

Another myth.

Sex alone cannot make you rich or poor. What causes financial problems is the lifestyle surrounding the sex.

In Nigeria today, many women lack jobs. Men end up paying school fees, data, feeding, and monthly allowances for their girlfriends. This drains finances—not the sex.

Imagine a man earning 70k monthly, sleeping with a hookup girl for 30k twice a month. He’s left with almost nothing, then starts claiming “sex makes me broke.” No, he went broke because he’s dating a dependent woman or spending beyond his means. Sex itself is harmless. It’s the spending that breaks your account. A woman can’t spiritually make you rich except she chooses to bless you financially.

4. “Masturbation blocks blessings.”

False.Masturbation has nothing to do with destiny or blessings. This belief comes from ignorance and religion. Masturbation is a physical issue and can be controlled by avoiding triggers. Whether you masturbate or not won’t stop you from passing exams, winning contracts, or progressing in life. It may cause guilt or dissatisfaction, but it’s not spiritual.

5. “Problems can be transferred through sex.”

No. Life problems are not transferable through sex. If someone faces challenges and you sleep with them, their problems won’t jump into you spiritually. However, if you’re emotionally connected (like in marriage), you might feel their pain because you care. But their struggles won’t attach themselves to your destiny.

6. “If you are pushing for something big, stay away from sex.”

Sex has nothing to do with achieving goals. Unless you personally decide to abstain for focus, it holds no spiritual barrier.

Who Believes These Myths?

Only three categories:

1. Religious people 

Many religious groups see sex as sacred or even demonic. Some consider male and female interactions a taboo. This is normal in strict religious settings.

2. Yahoo boys

‘Person wey no get work dey blame woman for bad luck.’ Many yahoo boys believe some women bring bad luck. But the truth is: Bro, no be woman make you broke. Find a side hustle.

3. Culture and tradition

Many cultures exaggerated the “spiritual” angle of sex to discourage immorality—not because sex is actually spiritual.

There’s nothing spiritual about sex. Sex is just sex—mostly for pleasure, bonding, and reproduction. The belief that sex is spiritual comes from fear, illiteracy, and religious doctrines designed to control behavior.

People should be educated on real consequences like:
– STIs
– Unwanted pregnancy
– Emotional trauma
– Multiple partners
– Teenage relationships
– Unprotected sex

Instead of relying on myths claiming sex is spiritually dangerous.

Sex is not spiritual. The fear surrounding it is what society—and religion—created.

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