So, your boyfriend or girlfriend cheated on you, and you have decided to forgive them and let go of their disloyalty. Even though this is a tough decision for you to make, these are the six(6) things to expect when you forgive a cheating partner.
1. They Will Become More Secretive.
When you forgive a cheating partner, they will become more secretive and start hiding things from you. Since you caught them once, they will try their possible best to hide things from you again in order not to get caught or for you to judge them.
They might delete their chats before visiting you; they could change their passwords and environment. Although this doesn’t mean every cheater is secretive, it’s just what they do. They will start using lies to cover lies.
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2. They Will Cheat on You Again.
Of course, we all deserve a second chance, but for cheaters, giving them a second chance may appear like giving them an award for what they did. It’s more likely to happen again, so if you have decided to forgive your partner for cheating on you, just be careful and pay more attention to them because they are likely to cheat on you again, knowing that you will forgive them again should they make the same mistake.
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3. Trust Issues.
Trust is like a glass; once broken, it can never be whole again. Your partner will think you can never trust them again. So they get worried, and when there are minor arguments, you will hear them say, “The problem is, you don’t trust me.” Though they might be trying their best to prove to you that you can trust them again, this will be difficult for you to believe. And when trust is shattered in a relationship, such a relationship will fail.
4. The Urge to Revenge.
When your partner cheats on you, you will feel betrayed and blame yourself for being stupid and foolish to have trusted them. All these can trigger you to cheat on them to make them understand how it feels to be cheated on, but this is never a solution.
If you still love them and have hope in the relationship, cheating on them back will be a terrible mistake, but most people cheat because their partner also cheats on them. So if you forgive your partner, you may feel the urge to take revenge.
5. The Relationship Will Never Be the Same Again.
The truth is that the relationship will not be the same again. The love, the trust, the communication, the commitment, the vibes, and the romance will shrink. Some people may decide to forgive, but they won’t forget or let go easily.
It is going to take a whole lot of time to rebuild the relationship and make it whole again. If your partner decided to forgive you for cheating on them, you should give them time to completely forgive you, and during those times, prove yourself right that you can still be trusted again.
6. Some May Repent for Good.
Some individuals genuinely change after being forgiven for cheating. Some will come back to their senses after you forgive them; they admit their mistakes and take full responsibility for their actions. They can go extra mile to prove to you that they’ve truly changed because they wouldn’t like to disappoint you this time around.
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Is It Worth It to Forgive a Cheating Partner?
This depends on how healthy the relationship is, their personalities, and the reason behind their cheating behavior. Find out the real reasons why they decided to cheat on you, how and when it happened, and with whom. If they’re willing to change then I think it worth it to forgive them and rebuild the relationship.
It is important to understand that forgiveness is a process of changing your negative thoughts towards your partner; it’s not a solution. Forgiveness requires open and honest communication with your partner about your feelings and concerns regarding their disloyalty. It involves mutual respect, understanding, and commitment.
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Do You Really Think a Cheating Partner Deserves a Second Chance?
Change is the only thing that is constant in life, and humans are unpredictable. Some people repent and change for better once forgiven, while others will get worse, so the best way to find out if your partner truly deserves a second chance is to forgive them and stay vigilant.
You should set new rules and regulations in the relationship, and you may ask them to share their passwords and block the other guys if that will convince you to trust them again. When you forgive a cheating partner, never forget to set a clear boundary and give them a strong warning not to break the rules.