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Can too Much Pride Ruin a Relationship? How I Lost a Beautiful Relationship Because of Pride

Some relationships would have existed till date if not for pride; in fact, there would have been a reduction in the number of divorces worldwide if not for the pride and ego of men who see themselves as kings who bow to nobody but themselves.

I think now is the right time to inform you that your pride and ego can ruin your beautiful relationship. You see that moment when you have the mentality that I can never say sorry to a woman, I can’t beg a woman, if she can’t call me, I will not call her—oh really? Relationships require hard work and stress to work out.

Of course, I once had this mentality; that is what I learned from my friends who have multiple girlfriends. They told me, We men are kings, and we can do as we like; we can talk trash to a woman, and she will be the one to beg us; we can use and dump them, but I later realized I was wrong after my pride and ego made me lose a beautiful relationship.

How did it happen? So, we fell in love; everything was perfectly okay; we couldn’t escape a day without talking to each other; we text each other; and that has been a normal tradition for us. Not until I believe kings don’t succumb to a woman’s will, so if she doesn’t call, I won’t call either. If we had misunderstandings, I would wait until she messaged to beg.

Wow, it actually worked because I thought I was in control of my relationship, not knowing I was teaching her how to live without me. It wasn’t my fault, but my pride and ego. Never! I can’t beg a woman or call her to say sorry after all, “girls plenty.” Imagine a whole me begging her to forgive my shortcomings. Even when I apologized, it wasn’t genuine. What a proud man!

It kept going on like that. After a fight, we took our first break. I knew she would come back; yes, she did, and we settled again. I knew I hurt her, but who cares about women’s feelings? This kept going and going until again, if she doesn’t text, I won’t text; if she doesn’t call me, I won’t call her..

I was expecting her call and message from one month to three months, I knew danger was looming this time, so I was forced to swallow my pride and ego to save my relationship; unfortunately, it was already too late.

I humbled myself, and now I’m ready to let go of my ego. I did all I could to revive the relationship, but trust me, broken things can’t be whole again. The love has reduced, the vibes are no longer there, and now I’m very sure this relationship is not going to work this time except if we force ourselves.

Yes, we did love each other, but you know, love is not always enough because true love is not prideful. It’s sad we had to end it this way, and that was how I lost a beautiful relationship. We could have had the best relationship, but pride wouldn’t allow that. Perhaps I adopted my friend’s ideology that men are kings, a king does not apologize or beg her queens, we can do as we like to be in control, but now I realized that that ideology is very wrong because it made me lose my beautiful relationship.

Those times I was expecting her to reach out to me as usual, she has already moved on, it was then I realized that I fucked up with my pride.

I know some guys have this pride: if she doesn’t call, I won’t call; if she doesn’t text me, I won’t text her because there are lots of women out there. The truth is, if you adopt this ideology, that means you are teaching your woman how to live without you.

You see, that girl who has been the one to always apologize to you, make things work, call, text, and chat with you while you act like a king will soon realize you are a bad option. She will gradually learn how to be happy without you, and to your greatest surprise, you will lose her forever to a man who knows her worth. Unfortunately, you will not be able to get her attention and win her love again because you already taught her how to live without you with that pride of yours.

If you don’t swallow your pride as a man in a relationship, you might end up like the man in this story, who lost a beautiful relationship because of his pride.

You may think you are the king because there are many girls, but among those girls, which of them genuinely loves you and wants to be with you? It is not about the numbers, but about your attitude and behavior. If a man is full of pride and ego, it will be difficult for them to experience a happy relationship or a successful marriage.

Yes, we are the king, the head of the family, and we control all other parts of the body (the family). However, simply because we are the head doesn’t mean we should forget that without the neck, the head won’t function properly, so we must learn to treat our queens right and accord them the respect they deserve in order to live peacefully and happily married together. .

Women are like the neck, which serves as support for the head. The head is the king because you breathe in and out there, feed through there, see through there, your beautiful and handsome face is there, and your dimples are there. The head is what people will notice first before other parts of the body, and this is why when a home is scattered, people will put blame on the man for his inability to put his home in shape.

As a man, you have a lot of responsibility to take on. If you want to be a good role model for your own generation, start by being humble, swallowing your pride, and being responsible. Do not ignore her feelings or make her feel unwanted. Remember, a man’s pride will ruin his relationship. Learn to admit your mistakes, don’t position yourself as superior over your spouse, don’t become defensive during an argument, and don’t feel the need to communicate because you already know the answer.

Like the story of the man in this write-up, the communication in your relationship can worsen when you are too proud, and you should know that lack of communication kills relationships faster. Too much pride will decrease the sexual life and create emotional disconnection in a relationship.