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How to Demand Money from Your Boyfriend: Tips to Ask Money from a Stingy Man

Relationships are built on love, trust, mutual respect, understanding, and caring for one another. As much as love is important in a relationship, so is money.

Sometimes we may find ourselves in a situation whereby we need our spouse’s financial assistance, but the issue is that some of us are shy, and we don’t even know how to ask them for money or demand it from them, especially from a stingy man.

Are you shy enough that you can’t look at your boyfriend’s face and demand something from him? Or is it that your man is stingy and doesn’t bother giving you anything at all, or you don’t know how to demand money from him? Whatever the case, we shall briefly discuss some tips for demanding money from a man in this article.

Before you ask him for money:

If you want a man to earn your respect, don’t turn the relationship into a money bank. You should demand what you think he can afford, and if he says he doesn’t have it, please understand. Also, it is unwise to ask a guy for money at the early stage of a relationship; it turns them off and makes them see you as cheap.

Let’s assume you started dating last month, and boom, you are already asking for money for hair, phone, airtime, etc.; this may drive him away. Although urgency can come at any time, the right time to make demands in a relationship is after you guys have established mutual love, respect, understanding, and trust in the relationship.

How to ask for money from a Man

1. What Do You Need?

Asking a man for money is not just about asking, what do you need it for? Financial assistance is different from demanding money.

Financial assistance is a situation where something comes up and you need money to solve the problem at that moment. Here, it’s just like borrowing money from your man, and you will pay him back as soon as possible. You could say:

“Hi baby, good day. I hope this message meets you well. Please, I’m sorry for this message. I need your help, and I don’t know how to ask you. That is why I’m sending you this message: Please, I need #30,000 to sort out my registration at school. I will refund you as soon as possible. I will be glad if you can help me in any way.”

Make sure you explain to him the help you need, why you need it, and how urgent it is. It’s fine if you can’t tell him straight to his face; just compose a message and send it to him. Even if he doesn’t have any at that moment, he will try to provide any assistance he has for you.

DEMANDING FOR MONEY:

Demanding is like asking your boyfriend to do something for you. Here is something you wish he could do for you: It is something you want from him and are not willing to pay back. It could be money for your hair, airtime, data, a new dress, or whatever your heart desires. What is it you need? There are two ways of getting your demands from him here: either by using body language or by approaching him.

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By using body language, if you flash him when he doesn’t see you online, he knows you don’t have airtime or data. If he asks you if you have eaten and you say no, he knows you are hungry. If he asks you what’s wrong and you tell him you are unhappy, he knows you need help. He will listen to you and help you.

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APPROACH HIM:

The truth is, most guys would want you to demand something from them before they give or offer any help to you. So don’t expect him to always give it to you without asking for it; you have to demand it. If you need anything from your boyfriend, you need to summon the courage to approach him and ask. If you are the shy type, use text messages or instant messaging apps like WhatsApp, Facebook, Twitter, etc. to communicate your demands.

2. Be Polite in Your Approach.

When asking your boyfriend for money, try to be polite and don’t show an entitlement mentality. Even if your man is stingy, when you approach him in a polite way, he can go to any length to make you happy.

You could say, “Hi babe, please can you buy this sneaker for me? I’m kind of broke here.”

“Hi honey, please, I need your help financially. Can you assist me with $50,000? I know this is not your responsibility, but I will appreciate it if you can assist me financially at this moment.”

Hi Sweetheart, I want to thank you for always being there for me, and I’m grateful to have you as my man. Please, I need your help in paying my school fees. I was able to raise 30k remaining 25k. I don’t know if you can help me financially. I regret any inconvenience this may cause you, please.”

3. I Want to Do My Hair.

One of the easiest ways to demand money from a guy is by telling him you want him to do your hair. “Hi honey, I love this hairstyle, and I wish to do it. Can you send me money to do my hair?”

4. Snap What You Need for Your Man.

If what you want from him is just a mere demand and not urgent, you can take a screenshot and caption it with “Hello honey, can you get this for me please?” If you want him to get you a phone, take a screenshot of the phone with the same caption and send it to him, then wait for his response.

5. Appreciate His Efforts.

If you want a guy to keep spending on you, you must show him that you are grateful for his efforts. This is the easiest way to make him give you more without asking. If he buys an expensive gift for you, make sure you thank him almost every day throughout the month. Show him that you appreciate what he does for you, whether the gift is small or big. By doing this, he will be motivated to do more for you. When you ask him for anything, he will give it to you willingly because he knows you are not an ingrate.

6. Ask for Money Occasionally.

Another way to demand money from your man is by asking for it occasionally. This method is actually the best because your boyfriend knows that you don’t demand money when you don’t need it. Unlike some girls who will suffocate their boyfriend with constant demands, You could tell your boyfriend to send you money once in a blue moon. He won’t hesitate to assist you, knowing fully well that this is unlike you.

7. Tell Him You Are Broke.

If you are shy about asking your man for money directly, you could complain about being broke so he can be aware of your situation. For instance, during your conversation, complain to him that, “Baby, I’m broke. Oh, I don’t even have any money on me.” By saying this to him, he knows what you need is money, and he may ask you some questions to be sure of your situation. Perhaps if your boyfriend has never given you any money before or if you think he’s stingy, then this method should be your tactic for getting money from him.

8. Let Him Know Your Plans.

Telling your boyfriend about your plans will pave the way for him to give you money. Do you wish to change your wardrobe next month? Want to move to a new apartment? Want to celebrate your birthday? Want to do your hair next week?

Telling him about your plans doesn’t mean you want him to perform them for you; it’s about making him aware of your needs and schedules so he can offer any assistance if possible. When my phone got stolen, I told my boyfriend about it; although I bought the phone myself, he still rendered some assistance. So if you need money from your man, make him aware of your wants.

9. Tell Him You Are Pregnant.

This method is only for women whose boyfriends are stingy and don’t like to give. You could tell him that you are pregnant and don’t want to keep it. No man wants to hear that when they’re not yet ready to settle down for marriage. Luckily for you, he will give you money to get rid of the pregnancy and then use the money to flex.

10. Call Your Toasters in His Presence to Send You Money.

Every man knows that no matter how much they love their woman, there will still be admirers around the corner. One way to put a stingy man in the right perspective is to call your toasters in his presence and ask them to send you money. He will be jealous, and this will ignite his anger. Calmly apologize to him and explain to him that you only did it because you were out of cash.

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Note: It is disrespectful to call your toasters in your boyfriend’s presence. You can only try this tactic if you confirm that your man is a stingy boyfriend; at least this will send him a signal to spend on you to avoid losing you to his rivals.

11. Lead by Example.

The best way to teach a stingy man how to give is to lead by example. Once in a while, buy him gifts; he will have no choice but to reciprocate. Before then, you must have tried all the other options above. If your man has never spent a dime on you, show him love by spending on him sometimes and watching him spend on you like magic.

12. Monetize Your Lovemaking.

If your man is stingy and hardly gives you a penny despite having the money, the better way to get him to give you money is by monetizing your lovemaking. Although this idea is kind of rude, I must confess that this is what some ladies use to collect money from stingy men. When he’s horny, act like you are not happy and not in a good mood, he will be eager to ask you why, and you will tell him you need money.

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At that moment, a man can promise heaven on earth. Don’t fall for that; tell him you need the money urgently. He will have no choice than to succumb to your demands. Please only use this option if you have tried all 1–11 above and nothing happens; it could be that your boyfriend is stingy. Monetizing your lovemaking can make you look like a prostitute.

13. Be Specific About How Much You Need And Promise To Pay It Back.

When asking your boyfriend for money, be specific about how much you need, when you need it, and what you need it for. Try to give a deadline, e.g., “My rent will be due for renewal on the 21st; I will be grateful if you can assist me with 30k as this is urgent. I will pay you back next month as soon as I get my salary.” When requesting a large sum of money, promise to pay them back, this will put them at ease.

14. Pray for Him.

If your boyfriend doesn’t spend on you, it could be that he’s broke or facing some financial challenges. Try to include him in your prayers and ask God to bless him financially. Prayer is key in every aspect of life.

Is it okay to ask my boyfriend for money?

Nothing is bad about asking your boyfriend for money. However, you need to understand that a relationship is not a business center for making money. You should make demands that you are sure your boyfriend can meet.

Asking your boyfriend for money doesn’t mean you are cheap or lazy. In fact, women who are independent still want their man to spend on them. I will advise you to make your demands classy and not like a beggar.

IN CONCLUSION:

The better way to ask your boyfriend for money is by telling him straight without cutting corners about your demands or what you need. If you can’t approach him, draft a message to him and ask him for the money you need. Be specific and explain what you need it for. However, if he turned down your request, try to understand him, as that doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you or care about you. By the way, you can make another demand in future.