Responding to Your Anonymous stories and Confessions for 17th to 30th April 2025

1. Confront your bestie about what you saw and listen to her.

Additionally, your bestie is the weapon fashioned against you. No matter how much you love your female friends, never allow them have direct access to your fiancee. They might gossip you to your partner or badmouth you because it’s in some women’s nature to do that especially when they’re jealous or see that your relationship is better than theirs.

What to do?  Confront her about what you saw with evidence, then listen to her silly excuses  Start giving her space. Avoid telling her your secrets and keep your relationship private. Avoid sharing intimate information or your deepest secrets with her. Send her packing. If you are the one that accommodated her, I think it’s time to fling her away. If you like keep her for your room nah you sabi. If she could do that to you today, she could do worse tomorrow. Unless you are both roommates paying house rent together if not please send her away from your house. Pack her load outside make she dey go. Stop feeding her or doing anything for her, let her hustle for life. If you like dey forgive and keep your frenemy in your house, someday they might poison you out of envy and jealousy. Forgive her but send her packing and stop feeding her and cut her off totally temporarily or permanently from your life.

2.  You are right! I agree with you ..

While it is important to spice up relationship, too much of everything is bad..

3.  If you no be mumu, why you go allow your brother marry woman wey you done knack before…  

You open your eyes allow your brother marry nonsense. Even in the brotherhood, sometimes, we don’t fancy a romantic relationship with our friends ex not to talk of marrying one as a wife. Since what has happened has happened, you have the option to set a clear boundaries by warning her never to try that with you or else you will report her to the family and maintain your space with her. Avoid meeting in open places or visiting her home in your brother’s absence.  Block your brothers wife everywhere and maintain a clear boundary. Focus on your life and move forward.

4.  I’m not discouraging you but with this information available according to what is written, that would be a silly mistake 

“Sell One asset to complete the other even if it won’t be enough” If I could remember, I don’t know if you have stopped or still hustling oo. If you are left with 5 million naira, instead of spending it on building a house that you would have to sell off your other assets to fund, why not invest it on that farm products or a legit business and give it more years to yield result?  Well, if you still dey do yahoo, I think it’s best you follow your mind. However, if you have quit and left with 5M, why selling other assets to build a house when you can refund the farm produce business and start life from there perhaps land doesn’t depreciate, it appreciates in value.

Or better still start a legit business or skills with the 5m. At least this way, people no go dey suspect you of money laundering and EFCC won’t be eyeing you. Learn to lay low and start small small to avoid suspicion. While this sounds like a good plan, without any other tangible source of income or investment bringing good money, I think it would be a financial mistake.  Start a legit business, or hustle or invest in that farm produce instead of planning to sell other assets to fund a house. You can as well invest in real estate buying and selling of landed properties etc to make more money to fund your housing. When you have enough or making turn over, then you can start planning on building houses.  Focus on investment boss so you won’t be selling your properties to  fund incomplete project.

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If this couple above dictated their life by what other people say, they wouldn’t have ended up walking down the aisle and happily married together. If you still dey fear what people will say especially on your life partner, omo!  You go tey for bus stop ooo. Shey nah people around you wan marry you put for house?

6. Stop wasting your time, education isn’t for everybody. Discover your passion and explore.

If book no dey enter your head, try brick laying, fashion design, furniture and fittings, Tech skills etc. No be only one way enter market my brother…  Get serious with your life, if book isn’t your way find other way. Alternatively: Make friends with other students that love reading, engage in extra lesson or holiday coaching, join different educational groups on facebook and WhatsApp and connect with fellow students, form a group reading and try to stick to your Schedule. Read one chapter a day and continue everyday, once you are addicted to reading, you will love it.  You just have to change your mindset. And if you believe education isn’t your way, go and learn handwork rather than wasting your time. Good luck

7. 😂 😂 Like seriously bro, nobody can see the future accurately.

Lol I think she just want reassurance from you. Your response didn’t give a sign of hope, maybe that was why she is giving strange attitudes. She’s scared of the future of losing you or sharing you with another woman. Even though your religion permits that, she’s kind of curious what awaits her.

And this where “Reassurance” is good bro even though the future is unpredictable, offer reassurance for her. Reassurance is something like:

“her name() my love, I’m not marrying anyone else. You are the one I’ve chosen, the one I want to build my future with. No one compares to you and no one ever will. It’s you and only you, you have everything I want in a woman so what else I’m I looking for?”  Who go receive the above message and won’t be calm and relaxed?

Yes only Allah knows the future but I think you should give her hope and reassurance and that’s what she wants from you. Try this and  there might be a difference in how she behaves.  Think about this, if you are dating a woman and you ask her, “do you see me as your future husband” and her response wasn’t hopeful instead she responded with “only God knows” I’m sure you too won’t be happy with that. But if she said “Yes, you are the man of my dreams and I can’t wait to bear your children” shey your heard no go spark with happiness? 

There are some points in our relationship where what we want from our partner is reassurance and I think that’s just the case here. She knows, Allah’s knows the best, she just want your own reassurance.  Good luck

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9.  Religion is a sensitive topic that should be handled with caution and wisdom.

First of all, what matters the most in life are your personal decisions and life choices nevertheless family acceptance is also critical to consider and this is where knowing how to strike balance comes in. Your parents has lived their life and it’s time to live yours. If you and your partner are okay with your religion differences that’s good.

Do not marry someone who is good for your parents, pastor or imam instead marry someone who is good for you and do you know why? Because you, not your parents, pastor or imam will live with them for the rest of your life.

Now back to the point, your dad seems to be the obstacle and you need to approach this with truthfulness and honesty. Sometimes,  parents could see what we didn’t saw and might react on that. Your dad might think you marrying the opposite religion will rubbish the faith he raised you on etc, he might also be worried about inter culture marriage for the fear of your future.

Your boyfriend can’t fight for you here, he can only support, it is you that have to fight for your love and when I say fight I didn’t mean disrespecting your dad rather saying things exactly how they are and trying your best to stand for what you believe.

Meet him privately, tell him the truths,  where and how you met and how he has been good to you.

Talk to your mom,  uncle and elders about what you are going through, their advice and help can be helpful too as they might talk to your dad on your behalf.

I have already written on this topic already to avoid repeating myself over and over again article. I urge you to go through this article below and follow the steps highlighted there.  I hope it works for you. Good luck.

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What to do When your Parents Disapprove of your Relationship or are Against you getting Married to your Spouse

PS: stop lying. It could make things worse. Let everyone know where you stand. It’s unwise for a man to hide his identity to impress his in-laws, that’s not love but foolishness. Be yourself. Let him be himself and no pretending, put efforts first and try to convince your parents to see if there would be improvements. 

NOTE: WHEN SENDING ME A MESSAGE LIKE THIS ABEG ALWAYS INCLUDE HOW OLD YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS,  THE RELIGION IN QUESTION, AND STATE IN PARTICULAR FOR CONTEXT DIGESTION. Because some relationships don’t worth all these stress.

10. If a relationship isn’t working for you, you have the option to discontinue for your own happiness.

Dem no dey use rope tie person down for any relationship. What to do is ultimately up-to you. Trust your instincts and Follow your mind  Whom to choose is a personal decision you have to make on your own

11. There are important things that influence our life especially as a student 

• The type of friends we keep 

• The environment you we in 

• Comparison.

If you live in an environment where bad habits are rampant, or keep bad company as friends or you love to compare your life with others you might be tempted to join them and even when you choose to be different, they will treat you different, envy you or even backstab you, that feeling can be frustrating. But the good part is, if you don’t want to be like everybody, you must not behave like everybody.

Therefore,  you need an environment that will enable your growth and overall well-being. This house isn’t one of them.

It’s best you pack out when your rent is due and try to be yourself.

I will say this again, the type of environment you live in and the type of friends you keep have a lot of influence in your life either positively or negatively. It’s important to recognize the signs and walk away to protect your mental health. Even if they’re your roommates, it’s still best you go your separate ways.

So, change your environment to avoid running into depression.

12. First of all, having sex in a dream itself isn’t a spiritual problem, it becomes a spiritual problem if happens often and often and now affecting your physical life and mental health.

Some of the things that may trigger sex dream include masturbation, pornography, long distance relationship, semen retention or konji with lack of partner.

I have explained details about sex dreams here including solutions:

HAVING SEX IN A DREAM, GOOD OR BAD? THINGS YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT “SEX DREAM”

Moreso, you said this has brought disappointment to your life, failure etc maybe if you can explain more a bit 

However, many things that we claim are spiritual in Nigeria are technical problems that can be fixed with time and knowing the origin of the problem.

What have you done that failed? How’s your relationship? Are you a graduate? Do you manage any business?  What about your finances. What do you do for a living? The sex dream,  can you recognize the person? Was it your spouse or strange woman? Is the strange woman the same person or they are always different.

The way Nigeria is now, if person no get stable source of income, frustration fit make you think say nah village people dey worry you whereas nah bad governance.

Maybe you should send a direct message and explain in details because no be everything be spiritual. 

If you think you are in a spiritual bondage, pray and seek for help from a spiritualist especially from Alfa’s and white garment churches, they offers spiritual cleansing too.

13. You no get block button for your WhatsApp?

14.  Okafor’s law… 🌚

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