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9 Important Things You Should Never Allow a Woman to Do for You

Whether she is your girlfriend or wife, there are certain things you should never allow a woman to do for you in a relationship, for your own good, as these actions can lead to constant disrespect. As a man, it is important to take note of these and reconsider before accepting them from a woman.

1. Never Allow a Woman to Feed You.

A man who knows what is good for himself will not allow a woman to feed him. Although unforeseen circumstances may arise in life, if such a situation occurs, take time to reflect on how to overcome the challenges. Allowing a woman to support you financially while you offer only affection can lead to a series of disrespectful behaviors. She may not value you, and this could cause her to misbehave.

2. Seeking Shelter in Her House.

It is better to seek shelter in a friend’s house than in a girlfriend’s house. Staying in a woman’s house could be perceived as a sign of weakness, and it may not be as safe as it seems. Unless it is a long-distance relationship, avoid staying in a woman’s house for an extended period.

The longer you stay, the more your value diminishes in her eyes. Whether temporary or permanent, do not seek shelter in a woman’s house; otherwise, the entire community may become aware of it. Women often find it difficult to keep such secrets.

3. Refund Her When She Lends You Money.

Although this depends on who you are dating, not all women are difficult when it comes to money. However, to maintain your value, ensure you repay her as soon as possible when you borrow money from a girlfriend or wife. This will help you avoid negative attitudes and the feeling that she now has control over you.

4. Give Her Money When She Cooks from Her Own Purse.

When you visit her and she prepares food for you, or if you spend time together and she offers you a meal, it is appropriate to give her money for the food she provided. This is important to avoid future situations where she might remind you that she “fed you when you had nothing.” Women rarely offer free services without some form of complaint, so to avoid such situations, ensure you compensate her when she offers to cook from her own resources.

5. Data Subscription and Airtime.

This may seem unusual, but it is a reality. Asking a woman to provide data or airtime for you can attract disrespect. She may later use it against you, claiming she was there for you when you needed help. If you run into an emergency and ask for her assistance, be sure to refund her afterward to maintain your self-respect.

6. Taking All Her Advice.

While it is good to seek your partner’s opinion about your plans, it is also important to be able to make decisions on your own and prioritize your own ideas. Constantly taking a woman’s advice may not end well, as it could lead to manipulation. A man must take charge and be the leader in his relationship or marriage. Not every piece of advice from a woman should be followed.

7. Pregnancy Photoshoots.

Pregnancy photoshoots are not part of African culture. Do not accept such behavior from a woman. Keep your family life private. Allowing a woman to participate in a pregnancy photoshoot and expose her body publicly may suggest that you have failed in your role as a man.

8. Too Many Friends.

Too many friends, whether male or female, can harm your relationship or marriage. When you and your partner have a disagreement, she may seek advice from her friends, and they might mislead her. Additionally, she might receive attention from male friends in your absence, which can lead to disrespect. She is either aligned with your plans or should step aside.

9. Never Allow Her to Dictate to You.

Listen to your partner, give her your attention, and respect her opinion, but never subject yourself to her authority, no matter how wealthy she is. Be in charge of your home, and never allow her to dictate your roles. She is expected to be submissive to you, not the other way around.