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How to Flirt with Someone Online and Not Be Creepy

How to Flirt with Someone Online and Not Be Creepy

How to Flirt with Someone Online and Not Be Creepy

Flirting online can be tricky. Unlike face-to-face conversations, you don’t get the advantage of tone, body language, or facial expressions. That means one wrong message can quickly come off as awkward—or worse, creepy. But when done right, flirting online can be charming, fun, and even spark something real.

Whether you’re texting through social media, dating apps, or chatting on WhatsApp, the way you present yourself online matters just as much as it would in person. The goal isn’t just to get someone’s attention—it’s to keep it, make them smile, and build curiosity that draws them closer. So how do you flirt online without stepping over the line? Let’s walk through it.

1. Start with a Warm, Casual Opener

Sliding into someone’s messages with, “Hey sexy” or “You’re hot” isn’t flattering. It’s lazy—and it often makes the other person uncomfortable. If your goal is to flirt respectfully and get them to engage, your first message should make them want to reply.

For example, if you saw them post a picture with a dog, you could say, “Okay, your dog looks like he judges people more than I do. I respect that.” It’s playful, not pushy. It shows you’re paying attention without being too much.

If it’s a dating app, avoid clichés like “Hey” or “What’s up?” Instead, try something like, “You look like someone who wins every argument and enjoys it. Am I wrong?” A unique message sets a better tone than something generic.

2. Keep the Compliments Classy

Everyone enjoys being complimented—but it depends on how you say it. Jumping into their DMs with something overly sexual is rarely welcome and almost never effective.

Instead, try: “You have a smile that makes it hard to scroll past your photo,” or “I get the feeling you’re a lot more interesting than most people here.”

These types of compliments are flattering, yet respectful. They acknowledge the person, not just their body. That difference matters more than you think. Say you’re tempted to compliment their appearance—make it thoughtful. Something like, “You have this confidence in your photos that’s really attractive” hits differently from, “Damn, you’re hot.”

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3. Match Their Energy and Pace

One of the easiest ways to come off as creepy is by overwhelming someone who barely knows you. If they reply with short messages, respond slowly, or seem distracted, pushing more messages their way won’t help. Instead, read their tone. If they use emojis, mirror that. If they reply playfully, return the energy. If they’re dry or distant, consider giving space. Flirting is a dance—not a chase.

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For instance, if someone replies hours later with something like, “Hey, busy day,” don’t jump in with, “Why didn’t you reply sooner?” Instead, say, “Fair enough, I figured you were out there solving world problems or rescuing kittens.” It keeps the mood light and pressure-free.

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4. Be Funny—But Don’t Try Too Hard

A little humor can take a conversation far. It lowers walls, builds connection, and makes you memorable. But forced jokes or inappropriate humor can make things awkward fast. Say you’re talking about food and they mention they love pizza. You could respond with, “Marry me. Anyone who loves pizza this much clearly has good taste in everything.”

Or if they mention binge-watching a series, you might say, “So what you’re saying is we’re meant to watch Netflix and judge the characters together?” The point isn’t to be hilarious—it’s to show that you’re playful, spontaneous, and relaxed.

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5. Don’t Overshare or Get Too Personal Too Quickly

Asking deep or intimate questions too soon can feel invasive, not interesting. If you barely know someone, jumping into topics like past relationships, trauma, or sex often backfires.

Instead, keep things light in the early stages. Talk about hobbies, favorite movies, weekend plans, or small everyday experiences. For example, “If you had to live off one meal for a week, what would it be?” is a quirky way to start a fun exchange. Let the deeper conversations come naturally over time. Trying to skip ahead just to build closeness usually makes things uncomfortable.

6. Avoid Over-Complimenting

Too many compliments too fast can feel fake—or make someone think you’re more interested in their looks than who they are. Saying something sweet every once in a while has more power than trying to flatter them in every message.

For instance, if they share something personal about themselves, that’s the time to say something like, “That’s honestly really cool. You’ve got this mix of brains and charm that’s hard to miss.” It works better when it’s earned—when it feels like a response to something they shared, not just flattery for flattery’s sake.

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7. Respect Their Boundaries

Sometimes people might take longer to respond, be less enthusiastic, or end the conversation. If someone gives short answers or doesn’t ask questions back, they might not be interested—and that’s okay.

Say you’ve messaged them a couple of times and they’re not engaging, you can bow out gracefully: “Hey, you seem cool, but I get the sense I might be talking to myself here. No worries—take care.”

That kind of message is honest, mature, and avoids making things weird. It also leaves the door open for them to reply later—if they want to.

The worst thing you can do is keep messaging or guilt-tripping someone into talking.

8. Know When to Flirt—and When to Just Talk

Not every message needs to be flirty. Sometimes the best way to build attraction is to just have a real conversation. If they’re talking about their day or something that matters to them, be present.

For example, if they say they had a tough day, don’t respond with a joke. Instead, say, “That sucks. Want to tell me what happened? I’ve got time and good ears.” This kind of response builds emotional connection. And often, that connection becomes the foundation for more meaningful flirting later.

9. Let Them Flirt Back

Flirting works best when it’s a two-way street. If you’re constantly complimenting or trying to keep the conversation going without getting much back, it starts to feel forced. Say you’ve been keeping the mood playful and they reply with something flirty like, “You’re trouble, aren’t you?”—that’s your signal. You can lean into it. Flirt back with something like, “Only if you can handle it.” It’s not just about how good you are at flirting—it’s about making room for them to enjoy it too.

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