From My Inbox: Answering Your Anonymous Therapy Questions, Confessions July 2025

1. You are talking about education that he’s not well educated, okay you that is well educated enough, have you used your education to build Wealth? 

Well it’s okay to have high standards but at least you should build yourself to the standard you want from someone. When you build yourself, you attract high value men but no be say make you dey dream of having a man that will lift you out of poverty because you are educated.  There are millions of graduates out there too oo.

 At least build your life small from average to another level. A broke woman does not see herself as broke instead she thinks she’s in the wrong relationship. You are not in a wrong relationship, you might just be broke so fix that, that’s not anybody’s duty but you 

“is it that I’m unsatisfied”

I think you know the answer already. Perhaps you also said “Truth to be told, this guy has been good to me” so if he has been good to you, what else?  Instead of you to join forces together and build your dreams together, you say you are dreaming of being married to a rich guy lol keep dreaming oo. I pray make greediness no kill you oo. I don’t even know what you meant by “Not well educated” the question is what does he do for a living, what is he doing with his life? What are you doing with your degree? Abi you think say all those rich Men just wake up and became rich one day without working?  If you dey expect man wey go lift you and your family out of poverty, you go tey for bus stop ooo. You better wake up and work on yourself. Relying on a man is no longer advisable. In conclusion, since he’s not your taste, I think you should breakup and let him go. That good man also deserves a good woman who would appreciate his efforts and reciprocate his love. You are not doing him any favor for loving him. So no need to pretend, let him go then go for the rich guy you want. It’s a win for both of you. You deserve better, he also deserves someone better.

2.  Investigate, it’s as simple as that. 

Ask to speak with that his aunt, greet her on phone and introduce yourself as his girlfriend and observe normally if the allegations are true, he won’t allow you to speak with the aunt. Ask for the child’s picture and aunts picture, run a background check. Ask his friend the name of the alleged baby mama, and ask your boyfriend somehow to see his reaction something like, “who is Deborah”

 There are many ways to investigate while protecting your source so use your brain. Good luck

3.  This is called “Supernumerary” supernumerary nipples are generally harmless and nothing to be worried about. It usually grow under the Brest or close to your armpit. 

Normally, breast stops growing at puberty that’s in your teens 18-20  but may increase by other factors like hormonal changes or pregnancy or genetic. Appreciate your body the way you are. 

“I have never heard of people having 3 nipple”

There are many cases like this, Well, this is rare but not harmful, it’s normally called supernumerary. Nothing to be worried about but if you notice pain, discomfort or lactation, then you should see a doctor. Supernumerary nipples don’t indicate any underlying conditions or cause any conditions themselves. You can talk to a nurse or doctor for more insight, they will educate you more.

4.  “Always texting girls” “I saw him Texting his Ex again” “he changed to me” “he said he needs space” “I beg and beg him” ‘I saw him and his friend  having sex with one girl”

Sorry to hear what you are going through. You are not alone and it’s not by force, if you’re not comfortable with his lifestyle, you can reconsider If the relationship is best for you Or continue begging and wait till eternity for him to change. The choice is yours. You could see clearly with your own eyes so deal with that.  At this junction, I believe you know what to do. Follow your mind and trust your instincts. Whatever your instincts tells you, I support it because I believe you could see clearly with your own eyes the signs written on the walls. Good luck

5.  It’s normal thing among girls, so when they give you the green flag or  the opportunity to romance them, you better bang them quickly because the longer you delay, the quicker they lose interest to another man on the que.

She declined because that’s the best thing for her do. A Wise person understands that dating or flirting with a colleague at work is unethical and it’s one of the things people should avoid in a work space.  She did the right thing  a sane woman would do. That she gave you access to romance before doesn’t invalidate her decision perhaps she must have reflect on it and see such move as unethical. So, respect her space and boundaries. When it comes to Women, sometimes their opportunity only comes once and once you miss, to get them again could be difficult to various factors. So, when woman raises her romance for you, you should shoot your chat as early as possible. The longer you delay, the more complicated it becomes. Besides, you shouldn’t engage in a relationship with a colleague at work.

6. You can’t fault someone for not replying a message you already deleted.

If the message was important to you then you should have left it or  make yourself clear by resending the exact message instead of beating around the bush and nagging.

7. Lack of communication is enough reason to break up with someone! 

If you’ve tried to make them see reasons, carry them so they can meet you halfway and it’s still the same. If you know they’re the last person you’d call/text in case of an emergency, it’s enough reason to leave!