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13 Warning Signs He’s Only After Sex (Don’t Fall for a Chop and Go Man)

Have you ever met a guy who showers you with attention, says all the right things, but deep down you feel something is off? Maybe he calls you “baby” every night, promises you the world, yet somehow everything between you both always ends up circling back to the bedroom. Truth is, some men never come into your life for love — they come for one thing only: sex.

These are the men popularly called “chop and go”. They eat, clean their mouth, and disappear. If you’re not careful, you may end up heartbroken, drained, and wondering how you didn’t see the signs earlier. To save yourself that pain, let’s talk about how to spot a man who is only in your life for sex and nothing more.

Who is a Chop and Go Man?

A chop and go man is a man whose intentions are only centered around sex. He can pretend, flatter, promise heaven on earth, and even buy gifts just to sleep with you. But once he gets what he wants, he’s gone. At first, his love might look real, but in the end, it usually ends in deceit, regret, and heartbreak.

1. He’s only interested in naughty chats

If a guy you just met is always pushing dirty conversations instead of deep, meaningful talks, that’s a red flag. A man who wants something serious with you will not make sex the major topic every time. If every chat feels like a sex chat, he’s most likely not in for a real relationship.

2. He asks for sex on the first date

Having sex on the first date doesn’t always mean he’s unserious, but watch what happens if you say no. If he suddenly ghosts you, becomes cold, or cuts off communication simply because you refused sex, then it shows he was never looking for commitment in the first place.

3. He promises you marriage when he barely knows you

Some men use marriage promises as bait. They’ll even claim they want to meet your parents immediately. Don’t be deceived. If a man is rushing things and you hardly know him, he’s not being genuine — he’s trying to trap you into sex. Remember, if you rush in, you’ll rush out broken.

4. He demands sex in exchange

If a man only does things for you expecting sex as payment, that’s a clear sign he’s only after your body. Love is about care and sacrifice, not trade by barter.

5. He lied about having a girlfriend

If he told you he was single but later you discover he’s in a relationship, he lied just to use you. Don’t expect him to leave his main girlfriend for you. In this case, you’re the one being used.

6. Any conversation outside sex bores him

Ask him about his career, family, or future plans — he gets bored. But when it’s about sex, his energy suddenly rises. If he only wants to talk dirty, he’s not in it for real love.

7. He ghosts you until he’s horny again

After sex, he disappears for days, weeks, or even months. Then suddenly, he resurfaces with sweet words just to invite you over again. The cycle continues: sex, ghost, return, repeat. If this sounds familiar, he’s only using you.

8. He never lets you touch his phone

If he guards his phone like a secret vault, distracts you anytime you go near it, or outrightly refuses to let you touch it, he’s hiding something. Most times, it’s another woman — and you’re simply the side chick for his sexual benefit.

9. You know he’s married

Don’t deceive yourself — most married men who chase you are only looking for sex. They may use gifts, money, or sweet words to blind you, but at the end of the day, you’re just a side affair.

10. He doesn’t want to be seen in public with you

A man who hides you is not proud of you. If he avoids public outings, dates, or hanging out where others can see you, but prefers “Netflix and chill” at his house, he’s not serious about you.

11. He’s not affectionate beyond sex

If he’s not sweet, kind, caring, supportive, or warm-hearted — and every form of affection he shows is sexually charged — then you don’t need more signs. He’s not in love, he’s in lust.

12. He doesn’t talk much about himself

Ask him about his life, family, or work and he keeps it vague. But when it’s about how sexy you look or what he wants to do to you in bed, he’s suddenly open. A man in love shares his fears, dreams, and stories. A man only after sex hides everything else.